What is the best way to handle two teenage children that are becoming more out of control each day without bec

Lol this is so funny to me, I am sorry but your 14 year old drinks, and your 16 year old smokes pot, And when you punish them you go back own your word, You are so caught up in having to make a living so you can give disrespectful children all they need Lol, Not me, That 16 year old would be working and buying His clothes pot and what ever else he needed I would give Him a place to live and something to eat but when His disrespectful pot smoking self would be taking all His spare time up at a Job. but its hard to get a job with Pot in His system, or in to a collage, with pot in their system, This is abuse, to me.for you allowing such to go own. I tell them that we are going to lose everything we own because I am going to go every where you go and If I have to that then I will have to quit my Job. And that 14 year old needs to go to a but camp, She see Her brother getting away with pot smoking so......She figures she can do what she wants and get away with it...Tell your son if He don't stop His wrong ways in front of you and your daughter, He can leave. that is your house and lay down the rules to Him or else. If they want to act grown then treat them like thy are grow...Where is the man of this house....and why is He sleeping through this, God bless you All Your only hope is for your husband and you together to go to God with this and give it to Him....